What to Write in a Card for Someone With Depression

Depression can appear in many ways and can be hard to identify. Although mental health is spoken about more openly now, many people still hide what they are going through because they worry they will be judged or treated differently. Depression is complex and involves much more than just feeling sad.

Signs someone may be struggling

Depression can affect mood, energy, confidence and behaviour. These signs do not always mean someone has depression, but they may suggest they need gentle support:

• Low mood and low energy
• Loss of interest or motivation for things they usually enjoy
• Sleeping a lot more than usual
• A shorter temper, frustration or irritability
• Less confidence than usual
• Overcompensating by seeming unusually cheerful or excitable around others

Low mood and depression can make someone feel overwhelmed and alone, even when they are surrounded by people. If someone talks about self-harm or suicide, or you believe they may be in immediate danger, seek urgent help straight away.

Depression is personal. For some people it may be linked to long-term mental health difficulties, and support such as talking therapy, medication or help from a GP may be needed. For others, it may come after a painful or traumatic event. The most important thing is to approach the person with care, patience and kindness.

Image features the Daisies Always Grow Back greetings card.

Writing to someone who is struggling

If you know someone who is struggling with depression, they may not feel able to reach out first. Sending a thoughtful note can be a simple way to let them know you care and are there for them. If you would like to send a gentle message, our thinking of you cards are a kind place to start.

Because depression is so personal, only you can judge the best way to approach the person you are writing to. Here are some gentle ideas for what to write in a card to someone who is struggling with their mental health.

Helpful things to write in a card

• Tell them they matter and that you are glad they are in your life.
• Let them know you love them, care about them and do not expect them to explain everything.
• Remind them that they have made a difference to your life. For example: “Life can feel so hard sometimes. I am here for you, and I am grateful we can lean on each other through difficult times.”
• Tell them you will take things one day at a time with them.
• Share a funny or happy memory you have together, if it feels right.

What not to write to someone with depression

Even with the best intentions, some phrases can feel dismissive or make someone feel rushed to be better. Sensitive phrases to avoid might include:

• “Hang in there”
• “Be strong”
• “Be happy and positive”

Where to find support

You can find further advice on mental health from professional bodies such as Cornwall Mind urgent help. If someone needs to speak to someone now, Samaritans are available day or night.

Disclaimer: This blog is intended as a gentle guide for card message ideas. It is not medical advice and has not been written by a doctor or medical professional. If someone needs urgent help, please contact their GP, call 999 in an emergency, or contact a crisis support service.